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For any long-distance couples out there, we’ve got good news for you! Research suggests that living at a distance is associated with a host of benefits, including improved health, more frequent exercise, and lower levels of anxiety. It’s also good to hear that relationship satisfaction isn’t determined by distance – in fact, intimacy, trust, and commitment levels are similar whether you live in the same city or thousands of miles apart. Having said that, living apart can create its own unique set of challenges when it comes to sexual connection, so we’ve got a few tips to keep things in your sex life burning from a distance.
Auditory pleasure and seduction may be the most underrated of all the senses, and you can easily play with sound to cultivate sexual intimacy and pleasure from any distance. Sounds are essential to auditory learners (and long-distance couples), and their desires go beyond talking dirty and compliments. They’re drawn to the sound of your voice – it can evoke a variety of feelings from comfort, love, and safety to excitement, passion, and arousal. Some research suggests that the mere sound of a lover’s voice during long-distance sex can be an intense turn-on resulting in increased electrical activity in the skin. So, play with these audial approaches to pleasure when you’re connecting from a distance:
One of the biggest mistakes people make when sexting in a long-distance relationship is going for the full-frontal shot right away. They send nudes and genital shots from the onset and don’t allow the crescendo of desire to build over time. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’re likely spending longer periods apart, so allow the anticipation to build gradually, and you’ll increase sexual intimacy. To prolong the thrill and take sexting to the next level, long-distance couples should consider these tips:
And of course, before you get started, ensure that your partner consents to sexting. Consent is essential when sexting, so be sure to ask for permission, check in to see what they’re in the mood for and be mindful of your lover’s boundaries.
You don’t have to go “all the way” on camera, but you can still use this visual medium to play from afar during a video chat. Here are a few tips to get started for the best virtual sex:
What a time to be alive! When it comes to sex toys, the world is your sexual oyster. Whether you want to play with a penis ring, a rabbit vibe, a clitoral toy, or a full-size wand, brands like We-Vibe have you covered when it comes to sex toys. Their We-Connect app allows you to pair your toy with a partner so that you can hand over the reins of control or chat within the app — all from anywhere in the world. I like the We-Vibe Moxie, which is a panty vibe that you can wear when you’re out and about to build tension throughout the day. And if you prefer to play from the privacy of your bedroom, consider the Nova 2, which is the most advanced (and practical) rabbit vibe on the market. And of course, if you’re playing with toys during virtual sex, you’ll want to make sure your lube is toy safe, so be sure to stock up on ASTROGLIDE Toy ‘N Joy, which is sensual, slippery, and safe for use with toys made of silicone, glass, stainless steel, rubber, and plastic. It also happens to be hypoallergenic and paraben and glycerin free.
Sex means different things to different people, so talk about what you want to do and how often you want to do it. Perhaps you want to text flirtatiously or send sexts daily? Or perhaps you want to share in orgasmic pleasure and dirty talk via tech each weekend? On the other hand, you may prefer to build to a crescendo culminating in your monthly in-person meetup. There is no perfect formula when it comes to sex, so if you’re going to be in a relationship with another sexual being, you need to talk about it. Start by discussing what sex means to you. How important is it? Why is it important? What counts as sex? What do you enjoy most about it? What holds you back when it comes to sexual pleasure? Have these conversations openly and often in a long-distance relationship — it will pay off in the long run whether you’re living together or apart. However you play and communicate from afar, remember that you don’t have to do it all right away. Take your time, keep an open mind and enjoy the process of discovering long-distance sex and pleasure at your own pace.