The Complete Guide to Shower Sex


1. Have Your Protection Ready

One of the best things about shower sex is that it can be a departure from your normal routine.

If you and your partner usually get busy in the bedroom, getting steamy together in the shower can be an exciting change of pace. However, don’t let shaking things up mean that you aren’t prepared.

If you and your partner use protection like condoms or a diaphragm, make sure that they are ready to go beforehand. Nothing kills the mood like having to jump out of a warm shower while dripping wet to locate a condom and then wrestle with its slippery wrapper. To keep things sexy and safe, have your protection ready to go before you hop in the shower together so you’ll be ready to go.

Just keep in mind if you’re using condoms that certain soaps and oils can degrade the condom, which can lead to potential breaks. To play it safe, the only products that should come in contact with the condom are quality water-based, silicone-based, or hybrid lube.

2. Soap Each Other Up

As any shower sex aficionado can tell you, the real fun isn’t just in doing the deed.

Being in close, steamy quarters with your partner also presents the opportunity for some seriously sensual foreplay, so be sure to take your time and enjoy it.

Lather each other up and really take the time to enjoy each other’s body. Take advantage of the setting to experiment with different textures and sensations while you tease each other. Use soaps, oils, washcloths, and loofahs to stimulate each other’s senses. Just be creative and have fun with it.

3. Keep Both Feet On the Ground

While the sexy mood and the confined space of a shower might inspire you and your partner to try some more acrobatic positions, be careful.

The reality of slippery walls and floors means that you should probably stick to positions that aren’t going to send you both on a highly embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Ideally, these are positions that will provide you with the most balance and involve you keeping both feet on the floor. Here are a few you can try.

4 Great Shower Sex Positions

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1. Against the wall

In this position, one partner pushes the other up against the wall and enters them from behind. This provides plenty of balance for both partners as well as an added erotic experience for the person pressed up against the cool tile wall.

2. Bent over

This is similar to the last position, except this time the receiving partner is bent over at the waist. This allows for deeper penetration as well as providing an opportunity for the partner who is bent over to grab onto something for more stability.

3. Seated

If you don’t want to risk a slip-and-fall situation, staying seated might be the best way to go. One partner sits on the floor of the shower while the other partner mounts them. This position feels as sexy and intimate as it is stable.

4. Standing

This position doesn’t work for everyone because both partners have to be pretty well matched up height-wise, however, if you and your partner can manage it, this is an extremely erotic position as well.

5. Use (the Right) Lube for Shower Sex

One of the absolute most critical components to having killer shower sex is using lube.

While half the fun of taking a shower together is getting all slippery, on its own, water is not a great lubricant. To make things worse, it tends to wash away whatever natural lubrication your body may produce, leaving you with a pretty uncomfortable situation.

There’s nothing worse than getting all worked up with your partner and then not be able to do the deed because you’re dealing with too much friction, so don’t forget to have a quality lube on standby.

Just keep in mind that not all lubes are created equal, and not every lube plays well with water.

Grabbing the wrong lube can be as bad as not having lube at all, so you’ll want to make sure that you get the right kind ahead of time. Here’s what you need to know:

Shower Lube Don’ts:

Water-based lube

While the natural feel of water-based lube makes it one of the most popular kinds of lube on the market, it isn’t ideal for having sex in water because it can be easily washed away. Keep this one in the bedroom.

Oil-based lube

Not only should oil-based lubes not be used in the shower, but they can degrade the integrity of condoms, making them porous or causing tears. They can also be messy and hard to clean.

Shower Lube Dos:

Silicone-based lube

Unlike water-based lubes, silicone-based lubes won’t wash away in water, making them ideal for some wet, slippery fun. Just be careful not to use silicone-based lube on any silicone toys you may have as it can cause damage to them.

Hybrid lube

If you’re looking for the best of water and silicone-based worlds, then a hybrid lube is for you. It combines the creamy, natural feeling of a water-based lube with the staying power of a silicone-based lube for a shower experience you and your partner won’t soon forget.


Make sure that you’re aware of spills. While silicone and hybrid lubes provide slippery fun when applied to your body, they’re not so fun on the slick surfaces of showers and tubs. Wipe up any spills so you don’t wipe out yourself!

Whether you choose a silicone-based or a hybrid lube, make sure that you have it close by before you hop in the shower.

When you’re ready to move past the foreplay, you’ll be glad to have the lube near at hand. Find the lube that’s best for you here.

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